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Love & Forgiveness Room

The Love and Forgiveness Room

This is where we gain the ability to appreciate the people and experiences which have hurt us the most. This is the room where God recovers all. We become free from the chains which have held us captive, and we receive a new heart from Him.  We learn how to love well even when we aren't loved well.  

If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Do not even tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even Gentiles do the same? Be perfect, therefore, as your Heavenly Father is perfect.” (Matthew 5:46-48)

As I entered the Love and Forgiveness Room, Jesus said to me, “You can do this… my love is bigger and stronger than anything else in this world and with me by your side, there is nothing you cannot do. In this room, there is no fear, no shame and no hiding. I understand and embrace everything about who you are and what you have walked through in your life. I have been with you every moment and never once have I turned away from you.

He continued, "I’ve seen the fight and courage of heart in your darkest moments… when you wrestled with me like Jacob.  He wouldn’t let go or give up on the promise of my blessing over his life until it happened. Likewise, you are one who has always held onto the truth of my goodness and love.  Even when hopelessness and despair attempted to pin you to the mat, you did not succumb.”

“However, it was during these darkest of trials that you adopted the 'I don’t care' attitude to cope with the deep pains of rejection and misunderstanding you experienced.  But with me, there is no fear of any such treatment. Be open with me. Be honest. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and face the areas of your life where you have withheld forgiveness. You’re safe with me and if we don’t deal with this, then you will continue to live and operate at a level that is less than whole, and that is not what I desire for you.

Romans 7 Man

I did not make you to be like the Romans 7 man who wrestles against rights, wrongs and judgments against yourself and others. This kind of thinking will only get you stuck in the narrow gate where you have no understanding of my mercy.  We are done with the do's and don'ts and the rights and wrongs... you are perfect in my sight... and so are all my children.

Becoming a Romans 8 Man

I am not one to bring shame and condemnation or to require endless works for my mercy to be released. I am the God who never leaves you or forsakes you and my desire is to deliver you from bondage and turn you into the Romans 8 man who knows that he is no longer a slave to fear, but an adopted child of God. My spirit lives within you, and though you have suffered deeply, I promise that I cause all things to work together for your good, and if I am for you, then who can be against you? There is nothing that will ever separate you from my love. Surely Paul knew the truth when he wrote in Romans 8:38-39, “For I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today or worries about tomorrow – not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below – indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Taking the Log out of Your Own Eye

It is time to take the log out of your eye towards yourself and others and put your love on instead. You must forgive as you desire to be forgiven. I’ll tell you this Son, the earth is void of my mercy." I was flabbergasted and broke out in a cold sweat when I heard Jesus say this to me.

The Gift of Forgiveness

Then Jesus said, "You can’t bring people hope if you don’t understand my mercy and forgiveness. I didn't look at how the Samaritans rejected me. I was hurt, but I understood that they needed beauty for ashes and it was such a privilege to be able to change them forever by giving them forgiveness. Forgiveness is the most generous gift you can give."

So let’s get on with it! Forgiveness is a whole lot more fun than you think, so let's have fun forgiving what needs to be forgiven in your heart.

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THe 4 COrners

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Corner 1
Flipping Tables & Letting Go

Corner 1 | Flipping Tables & Letting Go

Corner number one is a place where we learn to be honest with Jesus. We let go of any of our feelings of anger, pain, misunderstanding, etc. by not holding back anything before Him.  We learn to forgive others by seeing a new way.

We gain the understanding that people are loving us with the best way that they know how to love.
This is the place where Jesus so powerfully helps us have compassion for ones who have hurt us by helping us understand their pain.

The Banqueting Table

“The first thing I saw as I entered the room was a large banqueting table that was filled with food. Forgotten memories of family love and joyful celebrations flooded in with a warmth and longing. Jesus grabbed my hand and led me closer where I saw the faces of people throughout my life who had fed me on hope, encouragement and love”

The First Side | Food of Hope

“My heart swelled at how much they had believed in me and how they had helped me along my journey of life to become the best parts of myself. These were the ones who had brought colors and flavors to my world; the ones that God had used to teach me different lessons and bring comfort and encouragement to my spirit.”

The Other Side | Food of Despair

“Then I looked at the other side of the table and it was all the ones who had fed me on despair and hopelessness. Immediately I was filled with rage and I went over and flipped the table so high in the air. I think this is interesting because this didn’t just impact the ones who had fed you on despair, but also the ones who had fed you on hope… the significance of having both types of people on the different sides of the table. I didn’t realize how much it had hurt the ones that were on the other side of the table. If we focus only on the negative experiences, it can steal the hopeful ones as well.”

Jesus laughed playfully and said: “Wow, that was strong, you needed to get that out of your system , didn’t you? That felt good, right”?

It can be hard to forgive when you’ve been unappreciated, mistreated and misunderstood… I experienced all of that as well.

Jesus responded, "What you need to understand is that people love you the best they know how , and most just don’t have the tools to know any better. It isn’t that you were not at fault at times, or that you didn’t react wrongly or pick up the wrong attitude, but just as I can forgive them, I can forgive you. The best thing to do from this point is to move on joyfully and learn from the past foods that either fed you or killed you.”

Corner 2
Forgiving Others

Seeing Yourself the Way God Sees You

“You loved others as best as you could! As I revealed to you in the 2nd corner of the room, people love you the best they know how, and there are always reasons why people behave or react in ways that hurt others. The same is true for you. I want to bring you greater understanding of yourself and help you to see yourself the way I do.”

Corner 3
Love Hopes All Things

Corner 3 | Love Hopes All Things

In the 3rd corner of the love and forgiveness room, Jesus said, "this is where we learn about a love that hopes all things. A love that brings a supernatural surrender of grace, hope and the ability to love well even when you aren’t loved well in return. This is not the disappointment and disgust room, this is the love and forgiveness room where you can be confident in my ability to work beauty into each and every person, whether you see it take place in your lifetime or not. Let go of every expectation and look to me alone. It doesn’t matter how anyone else responds to you or even for the ones who have hurt you to offer up an apology”

Jesus said,"You can't control other people, but you can choose how you let it affect you. You are much stronger than you know and I am going to give you the tools of adoration prayer that will allow you to maintain this perspective no matter what is going around you. Now remember, this is not a quick fix solution, and it will take time and perseverance for the full fruits to come forth in your life.”

Then He said, “There will still be challenging days where it will be very difficult to not slip back into old thought patterns and allow the pains of the past to overtake you again. This is the struggle that every human being on the earth must deal with. The battle of the everyday circumstances and practical affairs of life that you can’t escape from. This is real and will happen, but with my help, you will learn to be very intentional about what thoughts and emotions you give yourself to. This is the kind of love I am calling you to live out in your life! A love that hopes all things and is not easily shaken.”

He said: “Love is going to take the long way around. A quick judgment towards someone is easier it looks like, but it leads you to unpleasant feelings, disturbing emotions, binding them up. You are called to hope in all people and believe in them. Let Me tell you what I appreciate about them. I appreciate that I see their stories, and I know the end of their stories. I see their hearts. They are children made in My image. I created life, and life in and of itself in a human being is a beautiful reality. So, it`s easy for Me to love them. I have a heart of love and a heart that understands how broken people are and how they grow. I don´t have false expectations of them. It´s easy for Me to love and forgive them because I don´t have fear, and perfect love casts out all fear. I´m in it for long haul..I look at their essence.”

Practical Application:

Jesus asked me to sit down and write a letter to others and tell them about His hope in them. The questions he told me to ask were:

  • How do you see them and hope in them Lord?
  • How do you hear their heart and set them free in hope?
  • How do you understand their essence in hope vs disappointment?
  • What is your perception of me and what I went through?
  • How much do you enjoy your relationship with them?
  • What do you want to give to me to hope in them the way you do?

As I wrote these letters to the various ones who had hurt me, I felt the heaviness lift from my shoulders and my heart was filled with hope. I felt as if He was lifting to the 50-million-mile view where I was so attuned to his eyesight and perspective for them.

Corner 4
Forgiving Ourselves

Corner 4 | Forgive Ourselves

Jesus led me to the forth corner of the room where He turns to me and said: “ Now it´s time to talk about you. I am going to take you back through the journey of your own life and help you learn how to forgive yourself for all the ways you feel you have fallen short in loving others."

Choose What You Will Focus On

“Cherish only my opinion of you! Before we begin this journey through your past, I need you to choose what and who you are going to focus on during this process. You must cherish and hold only what I show you about yourself and not allow any other thoughts or beliefs to enter in! When feelings of pain, anger, shame, or guilt starts to arise within you, all you need to do is look at me and I will help you not to be overcome by these emotions.”

I never had a negative thought about you!

“I love you more than you could ever know and I have never once had a negative thought about you. I don´t expect you to be perfect. I only ask that you allow me to help you be kind in all your interactions with people and that you choose to forgive even when it is not easy to do so. But you will never be able to fulfill this in your relationships with others if you don´t first fulfill it for yourself. “

Jesus said: “You need to hold and cherish Bob right now and you need to know that I had never had a negative thought about you. I told you from the start: You are perfect just the way you are in this moment!”

Practical Application:

Let Jesus take you on a journey through your past. Ask Him to show you what experiences marked you wrongfully or where you need to forgive yourself. Ask Jesus how He sees the situation and how He sees you. He has never had a negative thought about us! This is not about avoiding taking responsibility for our mistakes or the pain we caused others, but it is acknowledging it.

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